I fell into the memory foam mattress on the floor.
Mom, Anne Hobson.
The bear-shaped in his 50 s put on some new ones --agey music.
Her studio is located in the upstairs bedroom of the townhouse in Ellicott, Maryland, with essential oils.
\"How do you want to start? \" she asked ? \". I had no idea.
How does one begin to embrace a stranger?
When I was in my 1980 s in Berkeley, friends were hanging out on the floor, and casual touch and sit-ups were common.
Sometimes they lead to sex (leading to everything starting in the morning)
Regret decades later
But it\'s usually a Perah.
Long before the # MeToo movement, good or bad, I can\'t remember anyone who expressed too much concern about the boundaries.
I live in Washington now.
This is not a lovely city.
People are very sensitive to boundaries (at least in public) and tend to avoid intentional contact with strangers or acquaintances.
Even before the career of politicians, Hollywood stars and media professionals began to break around, people had been in control of themselves.
But professional hugs, the careers we touch are on the rise
The culture of hunger is told by consent.
According to the rules set by the hug party and the hug website, there is nothing that two people disagree in advance.
Follow the protocol of Cuddlist.
Where Anne was trained, I had a preliminary opportunity with her. to-know-you phone call.
During this time, she urged me to speak to her as a client and not as a reporter.
Since I was a single mother, she guessed that I was used to giving a lot of care, but that I might not get much care for myself, and she told me that I might be surprised by how it feels to be present.
Now, the main feeling is embarrassment.
With the slight change in the music, how much I wanted to start lying on the foam, wearing loose sportswear and sweaters, I was stumped.
\"To be honest,\" I told her, \"I kind of wish I could get a massage when I saw your massage table in another room.
But that\'s cheating.
\"No, no,\" she said.
There is no wrong way to embrace.
So I pointed out the trouble points of my neck and hips.
Anne, a long-time massage therapist, found the tension and pressed it in and felt great.
But this is a complete deception.
If I wanted to see what the embrace experience was, I wouldn\'t be able to roll it all hour.
I had to head into untested waters. \"So,\" I asked.
She said: \"What is the most common hug posture? Well, I think you\'re wearing the reporter\'s hat right now . \". Yes and no.
As a paying customer, I would also like to know what is possible in an hour of service.
Okay, she said.
Spoof is very popular.
\"It sounds good,\" I said.
\"Do you want to be a big spoon or a small spoon? \" she asked ? \". Hmm.
Hug seems to require a lot of decisions from the hug.
It\'s not like going to a masseur or masseur and you sit down and have the professional handle it.
It\'s more of a dark feeling that I\'m not sure about the shape of the object.
I chose a small spoon. she curled up on my back and hugged me with her arm.
A few minutes later, she said, \"I feel like I want to hold your hand.
\"I think it makes sense, so I said yes.
For the rest of the meeting, we tried-
After the discussion-
A couple of hugging poses, including the fact that I sat there and turned my back on her
Put her arm around me until the position of Toby root.
At 50 minutes, a warning beeps, and after 10 minutes, the meeting is over.
We talked for a while and then I paid her and left.
As I drove back to my office, I tried to think about what exactly was bothering me about this meeting.
Although I have limited experience in professional hug, Anne seems to be very good at it.
She is a mother. she has a comfortable and confident body.
It could be an ordinary, non-
The reporter client will come in with a more focused desire (no reporter hat ).
But that\'s not why I stopped.
The definition of professional hugs is non-sexual, but the rules of hugs are similar to those taught to follow by today\'s college students in sexual contact.
Maybe I\'m a terrible retrograde, but I don\'t want to be asked.
If I lie in someone else\'s arms, whether it\'s a hug or something, I want to have a certain level of intuition and confidence that it\'s all good.
In the process of hugging, over time, cudler will know what works for the customer and what doesn\'t matter to her, I called Annie to ask.
The answer is complicated.
In a sense, yes: as in any relationship, repeated hugs allow participants to learn the rhythm from each other.
But even so, she said: \"I still like to check in with someone. . . .
Sometimes some kind of touch is OK, but the other one is better.
So I asked a regular \"can you check your body now? What is the most wanted problem to solve, how do you interact with your body now ? \" This day will change --to-
From day to moment.
This applies not only to hugs, but also to life, she said.
\"My hope is that my clients learn how to express themselves and their current wishes so that when they go out and build relationships with others ---
Romance or other intimacy-
They learned the skill of speaking. . . .
You can\'t really agree if you don\'t know what you want.
\"Maybe this is my problem.
I did not go in with a special desire to embrace.
I went to see-and report on --
What\'s going on with this.
I forgot my hat on it.