Ndihambe ndayowolwa yi professional cuddler. Nantsi indlela ebeziva ngayo

Ndawa phantsi kumandlalo wenkumbulo.
Umama, uAnne Hobson.
Ibhere emile kwi-50s yakhe yafaka ezinye ezintsha - umculo we-agey.
Isitudiyo sakhe sikwigumbi lokulala eliphezulu ledolophu yase-Ellicott, eMaryland, eneoyile ezibalulekileyo.
\"Ufuna ukuqala njani? \" wabuza ? \". Khandiyazi.
Umntu uqala njani ukwanga umntu angamaziyo?
Xa ndandikwiminyaka yam yee-1980 eBerkeley, abahlobo babejinga phantsi, kwaye ukubanjwa nje okuqhelekileyo nokuhlala kuxhaphakile.
Ngamanye amaxesha bakhokelela kwisondo (ekhokelela kuyo yonke into eqala kusasa)
Ukuzisola kumashumi eminyaka kamva
Kodwa idla ngokuba yiPera.
Kwakudala ngaphambi kwentshukumo ye # MeToo, elungileyo okanye embi, andikhumbuli nabani na ovakalise inkxalabo enkulu malunga nemida.
Ndihlala eWashington ngoku.
Ayisosixeko sithandekayo esi.
Abantu banovelwano kakhulu kwimida (ubuncinci esidlangalaleni) kwaye bavame ukuphepha ukunxibelelana ngabom nabantu abangabaziyo okanye abantu obaqhelileyo.
Kwanangaphambi kokuba umsebenzi wezopolitiko, iinkwenkwezi zaseHollywood kunye nabasebenzi beendaba baqalise ukuqhawuka, abantu babezilawula.
Kodwa i-hugs yobuchwephesha, imisebenzi esiyichukumisayo iyakhula
Inkcubeko yendlala ixelwa ngemvume.
Ngokwemigaqo ebekwe yi-hug party kunye ne-website ye-hug, akukho nto abantu ababini abangavumelani ngayo kwangaphambili.
Landela iprotocol yeCuddlist.
Apho waqeqeshwa khona uAnne, ndaba nethuba lokuqala kunye naye. ukukwazi-umnxeba.
Ngeli xesha, wandicenga ukuba ndithethe naye njengomthengi hayi njengentatheli.
Ekubeni ndandingumama ongenaqabane, waqikelela ukuba ndandiqhele ukunyamekela kakhulu, kodwa ndandisenokunganyanyekelwa kangako, yaye wandixelela ukuba ndisenokumangaliswa yindlela ekuvakalelwa ngayo ukubakho.
Ngoku, imvakalelo ephambili yintloni.
Ngotshintsho oluncinci kumculo, ukuba ndifuna kangakanani ukuqala ukulala kwi-foam, ukugqoka iimpahla zezemidlalo ezikhululekile kunye nejezi, ndatshitshiswa.
\"Ukunyaniseka,\" ndamxelela, \"Ndinqwenela ukufumana i-massage xa ndibona itafile yakho yokuphulula kwelinye igumbi.
Kodwa oko kukukopela.
"Hayi, hayi," watsho.
Akukho ndlela iphosakeleyo yokuwola.
Ndiye ndabonisa iindawo ezinengxaki zentamo kunye nesinqe.
U-Anne, i-massage ye-massage therapist ixesha elide, wayifumana i-tension kwaye wayicinezela kwaye waziva ekhululekile.
Kodwa oku kukukhohlisa okupheleleyo.
Ukuba bendifuna ukubona ukuba yintoni amava okwamkela, andizukwazi ukuyiqengqa iyure yonke.
Kwafuneka ndingene emanzini angavavanywanga. "Ngoko," ndabuza.
Lathi: "Yeyiphi eyona ndlela ixhaphakileyo yokuwola? Ewe, ndicinga ukuba uthwele umnqwazi wentatheli ngoku . \". Ewe kwaye hayi.
Njengomthengi ohlawulayo, ndingathanda ukwazi ukuba yintoni enokwenzeka kwiyure yenkonzo.
Kulungile, watsho.
I-spoof ithandwa kakhulu.
"Kuvakala kulungile," ndatsho.
\"Uyafuna ukuba icephe elikhulu okanye icephe elincinci? \" wabuza ? \". Hmm.
I-Hug ibonakala ifuna izigqibo ezininzi kwi-hug.
Ayifani nokuya kwi-masseur okanye i-masseur kwaye uhlale phantsi kwaye ube nengcali yokuphatha.
Kungaphezulu kwemvakalelo emnyama ukuba andiqinisekanga malunga nokumila kwento.
Ndakhetha icephe elincinci. wasonga emqolo wandigona ngengalo.
Emva kwemizuzu embalwa, wathi, "Ndiziva ngathi ndifuna ukubamba isandla sakho.
"Ndicinga ukuba iyavakala, ndiye ndathi ewe.
Kuyo yonke intlanganiso, sizamile-
Emva kwengxoxo-
Iindlela ezimbalwa zokuwolana, kuquka nokuba ndihleli apho ndamfulathela
Beka ingalo yakhe ecaleni kwam de kube kwindawo ye-Toby root.
Ngemizuzu engama-50, isilumkiso siyakhala, kwaye emva kwemizuzu eyi-10, intlanganiso iphelile.
Sincokole nje ixeshana ndambhatala ndahamba.
Njengoko ndibuyela eofisini yam, ndazama ukucinga ukuba yintoni kanye kanye le yayindikhathaza ngale ntlanganiso.
Nangona ndinamava alinganiselweyo ekwanga kobungcali, u-Anne ubonakala eyincutshe kulo.
Ungumama. unomzimba okhululekileyo nozithembileyo.
Isenokuba yinto eqhelekileyo, engeyiyo-
Umxhasi wentatheli uya kungena ngomnqweno ogxininise ngakumbi (akukho sigqoko sentatheli).
Kodwa ayisosizathu sokuba ndiyeke.
Ewe.
Inkcazo ye-hugs yobuchwephesha ayinayo isondo, kodwa imithetho yokwanga iyafana naleyo ifundiswa ukuba ilandelwe ngabafundi beekholeji zanamhlanje ekunxibelelaneni ngokwesondo.
Mhlawumbi ndibuyisela umva kakubi, kodwa andifuni kubuzwa.
Ukuba ndilala ezingalweni zomnye umntu, nokuba kukuwola okanye into ethile, ndifuna ukuba nenqanaba elithile lokuva kunye nokuzithemba ukuba konke kulungile.
Kwinkqubo yokuwola, ekuhambeni kwexesha, i-cudler iya kuyazi into esebenzela umthengi kwaye yintoni engabalulekanga kuye, ndafowunela u-Annie ukuba abuze.
Impendulo inzima.
Ngandlela ithile, ewe: njengakubuphi na ubudlelwane, ukwanga ngokuphindaphindiweyo kuvumela abathathi-nxaxheba ukuba bafunde isingqi omnye komnye.
Kodwa nangona kunjalo, wathi: "Ndisathanda ukujonga umntu. . . .
Ngamanye amaxesha uhlobo oluthile lokuchukumisa lulungile, kodwa olunye lungcono.
Ndiye ndabuza rhoqo \"ungawujonga umzimba wakho ngoku? Yeyiphi eyona ngxaki ifunwa kakhulu ukuyisombulula, udibana njani nomzimba wakho ngoku? \" Olu suku luza kutshintsha --kuya--
Umhla nomzuzu.
Oku akusebenzi kukwanga kuphela, kodwa nakubomi, utshilo.
"Ithemba lam lelokuba abathengi bam bafunde indlela yokuzibonakalisa kunye neminqweno yabo yangoku ukuze xa bephuma kwaye bakhe ubudlelwane nabanye ---
Ezothando okanye olunye unxulumano-
Bafunda ubuchule bokuthetha. . . .
Awunakuvuma ngenene ukuba awuyazi into oyifunayo.
"Mhlawumbi yingxaki yam le.
Andizange ndingene ndinomnqweno okhethekileyo wokuwola.
Ndiye ndayokubona-kwaye ndinike ingxelo--
Kwenzeka ntoni ngalento.
Ndilibele umnqwazi wam kuwo