Ndinapita kukakumbatiridwa ndi katswili womukumbatira. Umu ndi momwe zinakhalira

Ndinagwera pansi pa matiresi a chithovu cha memory.
Amayi, Anne Hobson.
Chimbalangondo chooneka ngati chimbalangondo muzaka zake za m'ma 50 chinavala zina zatsopano --nyimbo za agey.
Situdiyo yake ili mchipinda cham'mwamba cha nyumba ya tauni ku Ellicott, Maryland, yokhala ndi mafuta ofunikira.
\"Mukufuna kuyamba bwanji? \" adafunsa ? \". Sindikudziwa.
Kodi munthu amayamba bwanji kukumbatira mlendo?
Pamene ndinali m’zaka za m’ma 1980 ku Berkeley, anzanga ankacheza pansi, ndipo kugwirana mwachisawawa ndi kukhala pansi kunali kofala.
Nthawi zina amatsogolera kugonana (zomwe zimatsogolera ku chilichonse kuyambira m'mawa)
Kunong'oneza bondo zaka makumi angapo pambuyo pake
Koma nthawi zambiri ndi Perah.
Kalekale gulu la # MeToo lisanachitike, zabwino kapena zoyipa, sindikukumbukira aliyense yemwe adawonetsa nkhawa kwambiri za malire.
Ndimakhala ku Washington tsopano.
Uwu si mzinda wokongola.
Anthu amakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi malire (makamaka pamaso pa anthu) ndipo amakonda kupewa dala kucheza ndi anthu osawadziwa kapena odziwa.
Ngakhale ntchito ya ndale isanayambe, akatswiri a ku Hollywood ndi akatswiri ofalitsa nkhani anayamba kusokoneza, anthu anali akudzilamulira okha.
Koma kukumbatirana akatswiri, ntchito zomwe timagwira zikuchulukirachulukira
Chikhalidwe cha njala chimanenedwa ndi chilolezo.
Malinga ndi malamulo omwe amakhazikitsidwa ndi phwando la kukumbatirana ndi webusaitiyi, palibe chomwe anthu awiri amatsutsana pasadakhale.
Tsatirani ndondomeko ya Cuddlist.
Kumene Anne anaphunzitsidwa, ndinali ndi mwaŵi woyamba naye. ku-kudziwa-iwe foni.
Panthawiyi, adandilimbikitsa kuti ndilankhule naye ngati kasitomala osati ngati mtolankhani.
Popeza ndinali mayi wosakwatiwa, anaganiza kuti ndinali nditazoloŵera kusamalira anthu ambiri, koma kuti mwina sindingathe kudzisamalira ndekha, ndipo anandiuza kuti ndingadabwe ndi mmene ndimamvera kukhalapo.
Tsopano, kumverera kwakukulu ndi manyazi.
Ndi kusintha pang'ono kwa nyimbo, momwe ndinkafunira kuti ndiyambe kugona pa thovu, kuvala masewera otayirira ndi ma sweti, ndinapunthwa.
"Kunena zoona," ndinamuuza kuti, "Ndimalakalaka nditapakapaka nditawona tebulo lanu lakutikita minofu m'chipinda china.
Koma ndiko kunyenga.
"Ayi, ayi," adatero.
Palibe njira yolakwika yokumbatira.
Choncho ndinalozera mavuto a khosi ndi m’chiuno mwanga.
Anne, katswiri wotikita minofu kwa nthawi yayitali, adapeza zovutazo ndikuzikakamiza ndipo adamva bwino.
Koma uku ndi chinyengo chonse.
Ndikadafuna kuwona momwe kukumbatirana kunaliri, sindikanatha kupitilira ola lonse.
Ndinayenera kupita kumadzi osayezedwa. "Ndiye," ndinafunsa.
Iye anati: "Kodi kukumbatirana kofala kwambiri ndi kotani? Chabwino, ndikuganiza kuti mwavala chipewa cha mtolankhani pompano . \". Inde ndi ayi.
Monga kasitomala wolipira, ndikufunanso kudziwa zomwe zingatheke mu ola limodzi la utumiki.
Chabwino, iye anatero.
Spoof ndi yotchuka kwambiri.
"Zikumveka bwino," ndinatero.
\"Kodi mukufuna kukhala kapu kapena kasupu kakang'ono? \" adafunsa ? \". Hmm.
Kukumbatirana kumawoneka kuti kumafuna zisankho zambiri kuchokera pakukumbatirana.
Sizili ngati kupita kwa masseur kapena masseur ndi kukhala pansi ndi akatswiri kuti azigwira.
Ndikumva kwakuda kwambiri kuti sindikutsimikiza za mawonekedwe a chinthucho.
Ndinasankha kapu yaing'ono. adandipinda kumbuyo ndikundikumbatira ndi mkono wake.
Patapita mphindi zingapo, iye anati, "Ndikumva ngati ndikufuna kukugwira dzanja lako.
"Ndikuganiza kuti ndizomveka, ndiye ndati inde.
Pamsonkhano wonsewo, tinayesetsa-
Pambuyo pa zokambirana-
Kukumbatirana kangapo, kuphatikizirapo kuti ndinakhala pamenepo ndikumutembenukira
Ikani dzanja lake mondizungulira mpaka malo a Toby muzu.
Pa mphindi 50, chenjezo likulira, ndipo patatha mphindi 10, msonkhano watha.
Tinacheza kwakanthawi kenako ndidamulipira ndikunyamuka.
Pamene ndimabwerera ku ofesi yanga, ndinayesa kuganizira zomwe zinali kundivutitsa maganizo pa msonkhanowu.
Ngakhale kuti sindikudziwa zambiri za kukumbatirana kwa akatswiri, Anne akuwoneka kuti amakhoza kwambiri.
Iye ndi mayi. ali ndi thupi lomasuka komanso lodzidalira.
Itha kukhala wamba, osati
Wothandizira mtolankhani adzabwera ndi chikhumbo chokhazikika (palibe chipewa cha mtolankhani).
Koma si chifukwa chake ndinasiya.
Inde.
Tanthauzo la kukumbatirana kwa akatswiri sikugonana, koma malamulo a kukumbatira ali ofanana ndi omwe amaphunzitsidwa kutsatira ophunzira aku koleji amasiku ano pogonana.
Mwinamwake ine \ 'ndikubwerera moyipa, koma sindikufuna kufunsidwa.
Ngati ndigona m'manja mwa munthu wina, kaya ndikukumbatira kapena chinachake, ndikufuna kukhala ndi chidziwitso ndi chidaliro kuti zonse nzabwino.
M'kati mokumbatirana, pakapita nthawi, cudler adzadziwa zomwe zimagwirira ntchito kwa kasitomala ndi zomwe zilibe kanthu kwa iye, ndinamuyimbira Annie kuti amufunse.
Yankho lake ndi lovuta.
M'lingaliro lina, inde: monga momwe zilili paubwenzi uliwonse, kukumbatirana mobwerezabwereza kumathandiza otenga nawo mbali kuphunzira nyimbo kuchokera kwa wina ndi mzake.
Koma ngakhale zinali choncho, iye anati: “Ndimakondabe kucheza ndi munthu wina. . . .
Nthawi zina kukhudza kwina kuli bwino, koma kumodzi kumakhala bwinoko.
Chifukwa chake ndidafunsa nthawi zonse \"kodi mutha kuyang'ana thupi lanu tsopano? Ndi vuto liti lomwe mukufuna kuthana nalo, mumalumikizana bwanji ndi thupi lanu tsopano? \" Lero lisintha --ku--
Kuyambira tsiku mpaka mphindi.
Izi sizikugwiranso ntchito kukumbatirana, komanso moyo, adatero.
"Chiyembekezo changa ndichakuti makasitomala anga aphunzire momwe angayankhulire komanso zomwe akufuna kuti akamatuluka kukamanga ubale ndi ena ---
Chikondi kapena chiyanjano china-
Anaphunzira luso la kulankhula. . . .
Simungavomereze kwenikweni ngati simukudziwa zomwe mukufuna.
"Mwina ili ndi vuto langa.
Sindinalowe ndi chikhumbo chofuna kukumbatira.
Ndinapita kukawona-ndi kunena za--
Zomwe zikuchitika ndi izi.
Ndinayiwala chipewa changa pa icho